Get over them already!(or on second thought, maybe not)

Hi everyone, it's definitely been awhile! I've been swamped the last few weeks, but now I finally have some time. Enjoy!

Heartbreak is something in life that happens to just about everyone. There's always that other person who just doesn't feel the same way.  Or maybe it's your significant other that breaks up with you for what ever reason. Even breaking up with someone isn't easy. What ever it is, it's not something that's fun to deal with. However, it's usually the getting over someone part of everything that just plain sucks. And that's what i'm writing about today. As someone who knows this feeling all too well, I hope I can help someone out.

Coldplay put it best in "The Scientist"

Nobody said it was easy
Oh, it's such a shame for us to part
Nobody said it was easy
No one ever said it would be so hard
I'm going back to the start

When heartbreak happens, our first instinct tends to be to try to move on as quickly as we can. People often do this in a number of ways. We try to find another man/woman and throw ourselves at them as fast as possible. We try to tell ourselves the person we're trying to get over never meant anything to us in the first place. We look at all there flaws. We try to convince ourselves how much better our lives are without them. And of course, we try to convince ourselves out of nowhere that we are over them.

While there is always an exception or two, doing those things I listed above don't work in the long run at all. Now granted, they may be a temporary fix. But they never last. These things usually fade, and your stuck in the same boat as before. So now what?

You need to let yourself be not over them for awhile

Yes, you read that right. I"m not saying try to go after this person again/ get them back. I'm saying just accept the fact that your a bit heartbroken, not over someone, and that it's going to take a while. These kind of things take some time.

Trust me on this one.

I tried to get over the same girl for years. I tried everything I mentioned above. But that's the problem, I was trying. Over the course of the summer this year, I stopped trying and just let it happen. And i'll be darned, it worked. I can honestly say that i'm over that person, and it was by God's doing and timing, not mine, that it was able to happen. Just stop trying , let the Big Guy upstairs do his thing, and all will work itself out.

Hope you enjoyed! Here's a few quick blurbs:

Go watch 500 Days of Summer if you haven't seen it. It goes along perfectly with what I just wrote. You will enjoy the movie, guarenteed.

As I wrote this, I decided to listen to a new band! Kim recommended that I listen to Mumford and Sons, and I must say I quite enjoyed what I heard of them! I really liked "Winter Winds" especially. I need to check out more of them.

Props to Joey Himmelberg for letting me tag along to the VIkes game on sunday, It was a blast!

Romans 12 is awsome, so much wisdom. Read it if you get the chance, you won't regret it!

Oh, and i'm throwing a Halloween party at my house in 2 weeks, and you should all come. It wil be LEGENDARY!

TTFN, ta ta for now!