Get over them already!(or on second thought, maybe not)

Hi everyone, it's definitely been awhile! I've been swamped the last few weeks, but now I finally have some time. Enjoy!

Heartbreak is something in life that happens to just about everyone. There's always that other person who just doesn't feel the same way.  Or maybe it's your significant other that breaks up with you for what ever reason. Even breaking up with someone isn't easy. What ever it is, it's not something that's fun to deal with. However, it's usually the getting over someone part of everything that just plain sucks. And that's what i'm writing about today. As someone who knows this feeling all too well, I hope I can help someone out.

Coldplay put it best in "The Scientist"

Nobody said it was easy
Oh, it's such a shame for us to part
Nobody said it was easy
No one ever said it would be so hard
I'm going back to the start

When heartbreak happens, our first instinct tends to be to try to move on as quickly as we can. People often do this in a number of ways. We try to find another man/woman and throw ourselves at them as fast as possible. We try to tell ourselves the person we're trying to get over never meant anything to us in the first place. We look at all there flaws. We try to convince ourselves how much better our lives are without them. And of course, we try to convince ourselves out of nowhere that we are over them.

While there is always an exception or two, doing those things I listed above don't work in the long run at all. Now granted, they may be a temporary fix. But they never last. These things usually fade, and your stuck in the same boat as before. So now what?

You need to let yourself be not over them for awhile

Yes, you read that right. I"m not saying try to go after this person again/ get them back. I'm saying just accept the fact that your a bit heartbroken, not over someone, and that it's going to take a while. These kind of things take some time.

Trust me on this one.

I tried to get over the same girl for years. I tried everything I mentioned above. But that's the problem, I was trying. Over the course of the summer this year, I stopped trying and just let it happen. And i'll be darned, it worked. I can honestly say that i'm over that person, and it was by God's doing and timing, not mine, that it was able to happen. Just stop trying , let the Big Guy upstairs do his thing, and all will work itself out.

Hope you enjoyed! Here's a few quick blurbs:

Go watch 500 Days of Summer if you haven't seen it. It goes along perfectly with what I just wrote. You will enjoy the movie, guarenteed.

As I wrote this, I decided to listen to a new band! Kim recommended that I listen to Mumford and Sons, and I must say I quite enjoyed what I heard of them! I really liked "Winter Winds" especially. I need to check out more of them.

Props to Joey Himmelberg for letting me tag along to the VIkes game on sunday, It was a blast!

Romans 12 is awsome, so much wisdom. Read it if you get the chance, you won't regret it!

Oh, and i'm throwing a Halloween party at my house in 2 weeks, and you should all come. It wil be LEGENDARY!

TTFN, ta ta for now!

The Ghost of Midnight

Here is a poem I wrote about 6 months ago. I was just re reading it, and thought I would post it again. Let me know what you think, as alot of this poem can be left up to interpretation.


It’s just another late night,
as I walk through the streets
of a sprawling metropolis.

But then, something catches my eye,
it seemed like an apparition,
perhaps a ghost?
But I know what I saw,
it has to be real!
I will chase it, no matter the cost!

So I ran after it at full speed.
I have to see it, I just have to!
I searched all over the town,
but I have found nothing.
Perhaps my eyes deceived me,
maybe I should stop this pursuit.?

But suddenly, I was blinded
by a radiant white light.
That had to be it,
I knew it was real!
So I ran off again,
stopping for nothing.

Yet, I still cannot find it.
It is as if this ghost
was just out of my reach
Alas, I grow tired of this.
Perhaps my brain deceived me?
I know I cannot keep this up.

But then, a lamp flickered,
this had to be the ghost’s doing.
Perhaps this light had represented
my hope of finding this ghost?
I continued my pursuit,
even as I grew weary.

I ran after the captivating ghost,
more swiftly than ever before
This ghost had to be true,
this time, it would be mine!
I believe that something like this,
just has to be real,
Or does it?
Maybe this ghost is just
a figment of my imagination,
born of inner feelings.
Perhaps it has been my heart
that has deceived me all along?

I cannot continue this.
My heart and my soul
cannot withstand this any more.
I must stop now,
rest is very needed.
My whole being is exhausted.

It seems like in this time
I’ve spent chasing this ghost,
three years has past.
I have spent so much time
chasing down this ever elusive
Ghost of Midnight.

I know I will never find this ghost
Because deep down, I know the truth:
There was never any ghost at all.